Love Rules. Pt. 1

Anyone that knows me, knows that I love to give advice. I like to think of myself as a younger, less yo-yo diet inclined, more Canadian, Oprah when it comes to love and relationships.

Lately I’ve noticed an inordinate amount of my smart, gorgeous, driven girl friends keep ending up with complete losers. The relationship inevitably ends with the girl being hurt, when really she should be cheering for having escaped life with such an utter dud. I feel like there are some common tendencies when it comes to how they approach relationships, so before my brain explodes from dishing out the same advice for the billionth time I thought I would write it down. At least this way I have a URL I can refer them to, in case they want to fall back onto old habits and Mama K isn’t around.

1. If he likes you, he will find time for you. Full stop. Life is too short to sit around waiting for him to decide he can “fit you in”. Trust me, no one is so busy that they don’t have time for a lunch/dinner/drink during the week. If he really is busy you may not get a romantic 3hr candle lit dinner but there’s always something you can do if you think a little creatively. For example – if you both like to work out, maybe go for a run together.

1b. Don’t accept the PIBE line. Tentative plans are not plans. “Playing it by ear” (PIBE) has got to be the stupidest thing I’ve every heard of. Do you really want to be a backup plan?  If he may be busy, just chose another day. It’s simple. UGH. The fact that people put up with this is so frustrating (I’m guilty of this too in the past, totally admit it and was just as frustrated with myself).

2. Take the Apple approach to dating. Apple doesn’t discount their products. Pretty much ever. Why are you smart, sucessful, pretty, nice (I could go on and on) and dating a loser? Too many girls sell themselves short and they deserve a lot more than what they’re worth. Doing this is like being a dating Groupon. People don’t like paying full price for something after they’re used to getting it 50% off.

3. If he tries to show you his true colours, let him. This is an oldie but a goodie for a reason. Trust me – he’s not trying to set the bar low on purpose so he can “wow” you down the road. If he’s rude, flakey and unambitious now, chances are he’s going to be even more rude, flakey and lazy 2 years from now and those are 2 years you could have been dating Ryan Gosling (insert man of dreams here). Girls, you are not Dr. Drew. Your boy friend rehab is not going to work.

Do you agree or disagree with my rules? I have at least 2 more parts where that came from (beware). Feel free to share with any girlfriends that you think could use the help. I’d love to hear some of your dating commandments!